Concentration

So today as I'm traveling driving through London to my client in NW, it occurred to me that to a great extent, we create our fate every single day, and most of the ills we suffer from are directly traceable to our own (controllable) attitude. This is quite funny to me in the sense of I remember talking to a coach and she relinquished any responsibility for what she was going though at that time when we spoke. Life is packed full of uncontrollable events; in many situations the only thing we can control is the attitude we choose to respond with. I remember the whole police brutality thing that's been going on in the states, now I'm not saying every situation is like this however from some of the videos I saw I can say if a different attitude was given at the time of harassment possibly the situation would have turned out much differently. When you really take the time to think about it, everything happening around us is neutral and meaningless up until the point ...

As I've gotten older some of the things that stand true and have really made a difference in my life has been understanding the importance of inner resilience. With enough emotional strength, with these 2 traits we can move our lives forward in incredible ways, despite the adversities we face. And you don’t have to be born emotionally strong. You can develop this vital trait with practice. Here are two key rituals that people with remarkable emotional strength, do day to day.  And I practice and do. 1.  They use love to fuel their drive to get the hard things done. Love has gotten me through some hard times that have really felt to me like I really couldn't be bothered to tackle. My sibling brother always says Love is the answer, you don't know how true that is. Life is not easy, which is why you have to do hard things to be happy in life. The things no one else is doing. The things that frighten you. The things others can’t do for you. The things that make you...

Ready for another quick reality check? Making a change to your lifestyle can sometimes be the most pressured thought you can feel, why? habits can be tough to kill. One of my strongest challenges was making myself wake up at 5am to meditate and then take myself to the gym, I was way over weight and felt very uncomfortable in my skin. I resisted making this change for sometime, maybe 2 years or so. So yes, you may feel resistance, just as I did. And it may not be easy. But we all have to stretch out of our comfort zones and move our lives forward. The truth is and I say this time and time again, living is a risk. Happiness is a risk. If you’re not a little scared and uncomfortable sometimes, then you’re not doing it right. Don’t let mistakes and failures worry you, we need to worry about what you’re giving up when you don’t even try. Worry about the life you’re not living and the opportunities you’re letting go, as you merely exist in the safety of your comfort zone. I ...

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough? I bet you do! And I know the feeling. We all doubt ourselves from time to time – it’s human nature. And the really crazy thing is, we think everyone else is doing better than us. But they aren’t. Every day we’re comparing apples with oranges – comparing our insides with other people’s outsides. In today’s society it’s even harder to keep things in perspective. Our lives are literally unfolding on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. We use these social networks, not surprisingly, to showcase the best parts of our lives: the beautiful weddings and enviable honeymoons, the finished projects, and the best smiles. But we forget that we’re only seeing everyone else’s highlight reel too – not the sleepless nights, the failed attempts, the moments of grief and self-doubt. When my partner and I split everyone around me said you guys looked so happy, yes looked. Sometimes the indirect pressure to compete and keep up — coming through so...

So, I've been around the block more than a few times now and in my experience over the years I've come across some things that I feel push people away from you. I've witnessed the devastation these behaviors cause - to relationships, mine included, professional success, and to the well-being of both the individual behaving negatively, and to everyone in their life. We've all acted, lets say toxic from time to time. damaging ways at one time or another (none of us are immune to it), but many people are more evolved, balanced, and aware, and it happens only rarely in their lives. One day I was working in Debenhams in Manchester as the handy man changing light bulbs when, another guy, me and him being the only two black guys in the whole of Debenhams at that time he seemed like he would get really jealous every time he saw me talking to any of the girls there. One day he stepped into the freight elevator and decided to start with me unloading his toxic behavior on ...

We all want things in life. We all have dreams and desires. And we all have the potential to get more of what we want. However, most of us want the reward without the risk. The shine without the grind. The free lunch. But you can’t have a destination without a journey. And a journey always has costs – at the very least, you have to invest your time and energy into it every step of the way. The hard reality is this: If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. So, instead of thinking about what you want right now, first ask yourself: “What am I willing to give up to get it?” Or, for those inevitably hard days ahead: “What is worth suffering for?” Seriously, think about it... If you want the fit body, you have to also want the sore muscles, the sweat, the early mornings in the gym, and the healthy meals. If you want the successful business, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business deals and decisions, and the po...

This morning as I'm at the gym doing my almost daily grind :), Im thinking about my partner and just thinking about things real love never does to you. What does that even mean!! I came across this article from one of my emails and as I read it, it was as though it was coming from me, that meant I resonated with what it was saying. Id like to share it with you enjoy. The Girl in the Mirror She looks at herself in the full-length mirror that hangs from her bedroom wall.  Completely naked and exposed, yet confident.  She’s older than she was five years ago, but feels much younger.  And she thinks momentarily about the different men who held her in front of this mirror. They thought they possessed her.  They thought she was theirs.  Because she was in their arms, so delicate and sweet.  But really she possessed them.  Because she possesses the space in front of the mirror.  And the moments that occur there too. She gazes down at the...