Concentration

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough? I bet you do! And I know the feeling. We all doubt ourselves from time to time – it’s human nature. And the really crazy thing is, we think everyone else is doing better than us. But they aren’t. Every day we’re comparing apples with oranges – comparing our insides with other people’s outsides. In today’s society it’s even harder to keep things in perspective. Our lives are literally unfolding on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat. We use these social networks, not surprisingly, to showcase the best parts of our lives: the beautiful weddings and enviable honeymoons, the finished projects, and the best smiles. But we forget that we’re only seeing everyone else’s highlight reel too – not the sleepless nights, the failed attempts, the moments of grief and self-doubt. When my partner and I split everyone around me said you guys looked so happy, yes looked. Sometimes the indirect pressure to compete and keep up — coming through so...

So, I've been around the block more than a few times now and in my experience over the years I've come across some things that I feel push people away from you. I've witnessed the devastation these behaviors cause - to relationships, mine included, professional success, and to the well-being of both the individual behaving negatively, and to everyone in their life. We've all acted, lets say toxic from time to time. damaging ways at one time or another (none of us are immune to it), but many people are more evolved, balanced, and aware, and it happens only rarely in their lives. One day I was working in Debenhams in Manchester as the handy man changing light bulbs when, another guy, me and him being the only two black guys in the whole of Debenhams at that time he seemed like he would get really jealous every time he saw me talking to any of the girls there. One day he stepped into the freight elevator and decided to start with me unloading his toxic behavior on ...

We all want things in life. We all have dreams and desires. And we all have the potential to get more of what we want. However, most of us want the reward without the risk. The shine without the grind. The free lunch. But you can’t have a destination without a journey. And a journey always has costs – at the very least, you have to invest your time and energy into it every step of the way. The hard reality is this: If you want the benefits of something in life, you have to also want the costs. So, instead of thinking about what you want right now, first ask yourself: “What am I willing to give up to get it?” Or, for those inevitably hard days ahead: “What is worth suffering for?” Seriously, think about it... If you want the fit body, you have to also want the sore muscles, the sweat, the early mornings in the gym, and the healthy meals. If you want the successful business, you have to also want the late nights, the risky business deals and decisions, and the po...

This morning as I'm at the gym doing my almost daily grind :), Im thinking about my partner and just thinking about things real love never does to you. What does that even mean!! I came across this article from one of my emails and as I read it, it was as though it was coming from me, that meant I resonated with what it was saying. Id like to share it with you enjoy. The Girl in the Mirror She looks at herself in the full-length mirror that hangs from her bedroom wall.  Completely naked and exposed, yet confident.  She’s older than she was five years ago, but feels much younger.  And she thinks momentarily about the different men who held her in front of this mirror. They thought they possessed her.  They thought she was theirs.  Because she was in their arms, so delicate and sweet.  But really she possessed them.  Because she possesses the space in front of the mirror.  And the moments that occur there too. She gazes down at the...

I was once told that I'm feeling my thoughts, what the heck does that mean I asked? you're always living in the feeling, of the principle of Thought. Sounds deep huh! When we discover the foundational laws or principles being nature or a fact of life, we find that they are constant. Look at gravity, it works one way: the earth always circles the sun not the other way so the statement You're always living in the feeling of the principle of Thought taking form in the moment is pointing to a constant: a fact of life. something you can rely on. This means that we're always living in the feeling of Thought in the moment. It means we're never going to feel anything other than Thought in the moment. While it may *seem* as though we could experience something other than Thought, the truth of the matter is that there are no exceptions. The single most useful question Ive ever learned to ask is this, where do i believe my experience is coming from  While the question ...

Now I don't claim to be a relationship expert and I do love being in a relationship and have been now in a relationship for almost a year with my new partner. I cant say that its easy as Iv always thought relationships if its the right one it should be easy, well news flash you still gotta put effort into it however I'm pretty sure there are some couples that have ultimately found that one and only whom their relationship is seemingly easy. I came across these 7 Mantras to stop small misunderstanding written by Marc Chernoff and so I thought I'd borrow them and share with you all. So the story begins like this. This past December a busy attorney named Valentina and her 10-year-old son, Marco, moved into their new home in New England.  The winter season was already in full effect, and a massive snowstorm swept through the area the morning after they moved, closing all the schools. Although young students like Marco suddenly had the day off from school, Valentina ...

Here's a thing, you ultimately become what you repeatedly do, so therefore If your habits aren’t helping you, then they’re hurting you. It’s time to learn from your mistakes rather than be conquered by them, and let your errors be of commission rather than omission. 1 Putting up with the exact daily displeasure's. You cannot stop what has already happened, but you can let it make you stronger and more determined. Looking back at what has been you have two choices, either let it brake you or let it make you The journey to spiritual maturity requires that you review the events in your life to find the wisdom and purpose they contain.  A time comes in your life when you finally get it.  When in the midst of all your fears and old hurts you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice inside your head cries out – “ENOUGH!” This moment is the turning point that leads you to success and happiness.  So as we draw closer to the new you lets close the door on o...